I swear, she didn't mean anything to me!

Here is a precious little gem a friend shared with me at the bar the other night: "Rings don't plug holes". Poetic, I know. He was, of course, referring to wedding rings and I will let you fill in the rest. It's not shocking to know that this friend has cheated on his girlfriend repeatedly. I've always had a little trouble understanding people who cheat on their significant others. If you want to sleep around, then why are you even in a relationship? Some people I know, choose to fool around but not actually have sex. Apparently this alleviates some of the guilt and they don't truly think they are cheating. Well, as my very wise girlfriend likes to say "In for a naked penny, in for a naked pound". I realize maybe I'm over simplifying things, but seriously? Why can't people figure out what they want and stick with it? I am not in a relationship right now because I have no business being in one. I think a lot of people just want a sweet slice of booty cake and they want to eat it too. I also think some people have no idea what they want, so they 'do' whatever comes along. Then there are those who I believe are borderline sociopaths. I have a friend who recently got out of a very bad situation with someone like this. The future he had dreamed up for the two of them seemed so enticing and real, that when he ultimately decided to stay with his wife, she was blind-sided. Now, she knows she never should have become involved with him in the first place, but it happened. It happens. I have personally found myself in the "mistress" role more than once, both knowingly (and guiltily) and accidently. Yes, believe it or not, people lie! Not only do they lie to their partners about cheating, but they lie to the person their cheating with about having a partner. I learned this the ridiculous way, when after a few weeks of innuendo-laced texting with a co-worker, we finally got together one night. After a couple days, I sent him a facebook message asking what was up and eluding to the night we had spent together. An hour later I received a message back from his GIRLFRIEND, asking me what the f*ck was going on. Fun! I apparently have a knack for stumbling ass-backwards into drama. All I know, is when I've been in committed relationships in the past, I have never been tempted to cheat. Relationships are a lot of work to begin with but you throw in a little something on the side that is both stressful and time-consuming? Really, who has that kind of energy?